This Dusty Pregnancy: Thirteen Weeks and Thoughts

I am growing a human. It’s a weird thing to think about. In fact, if I think too hard about it, my mind stumbles across the imagery of an alien bursting out of a man’s digestive system at the beginning of Stephen King’s Dreamcatcher.

I’m sure the same imagery has been used over and over in other movies and books. Take your pick.

Not exactly pleasant.

Except, of course, this isn’t like that at all, right? This is supposed to be beautiful, a blossoming of the female form and psyche into motherhood. I am supposed to glow and discover my true purpose as I grow with potential and life. I’m supposed to bask in the attention.

Have you ever had the experience of telling someone you’re pregnant? It has to be one of the most awkward things in the world, for reasons I can’t quite put my finger on. Sure, it’s sharing the news about the life I’m going to bring into the world in approximately 6 months, a hugely exciting, happy change in our lives. But, for some reason, the only reaction I can imagine from people is a succinct, “Oh, that’s nice.”

Even worse, telling people I’m pregnant feels like an admission of weakness. It feels like I’m announcing how terrible I’ve been feeling in the mornings, nibbling on saltines and sucking on hard candies just to get through my morning commute. It’s like it’s an announcement about how my clothes don’t really fit anymore and how getting dressed in the morning has become torture. It feels like an admission that my life has slowed down, that I’m falling asleep on the couch by 8 pm, that I can’t even keep my eyes open on the subway.

Of course, no one knows these things until they ask. But it feels like those words, “I’m pregnant,” are ladened with them none-the-less.

For the record, I’m 14 weeks now. Yes, this post took me a full week to write. My life really has slowed down.

0 thoughts on “This Dusty Pregnancy: Thirteen Weeks and Thoughts

  1. Jeanette, It took me a while to start to get used to the idea of being pregnant. It wasn't really until I felt the baby move that I started to realize that it was real and exciting! I hope that you aren't feeling too bad! If you are ever starting to feel weak just try to imagine your hubby pregnant. That worked for me. We are women and we can do anything! I'm praying for you in this journey.

  2. I felt sooo awkward telling people – especially people at work! So, I told my boss, and then told one of my colleague-friends and asked her to spread the news like secret gossip. I swear, by the end of the day everybody knew and I didn't have to be the one to tell them!

  3. I guess I kinda did the same thing! I chose to tell my team at the end of a big meeting – just tell everyone all at once. I thought it would spread from there, but apparently, it didn't get as far as I thought it would. There have been a few awkward moments in the office kitchen…

  4. Congrats!! I feel like it's been so long since I had to tell people (3 years now… who) I don't even remember!! This is such great news! So happy for you! 🙂

  5. Congratulations! Hope you are feeling better soon. I've heard the nesting part is fun when you get a big boost of energy – I can see you knitting up a storm! 🙂

  6. Like Abby said the news will spread like wildfire. And people will be soooo happy for you 🙂 babies excite people. And I still can't reconcile me being pregnant to the adorable little boy I get to cuddle, kiss, and call my son (3 mths!), despite the whole giving birth thing…

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